Agree-I’ve found that a man is perfectly happy with both of us being equals/co-alphas in the relationship if I just tune in emotionally to what he needs-otherwise, you have a frustrating battle of wills that never stops-it worked for MrT5 and I very well, even though I’m a Latina and he was 100% Canadian French-two volatile tempers in one place...
A few years after MrT5 died, my first lover as a grownup from college-whom I still call Nemesis-had become single and wanted us to reconnect-although he is still the kind of fine, muy macho cowboy that I like (can’t stand wusses or metrosexuals-they are a major turnoff), I didn’t think we wanted the same things, so I resisted. He responded by practically stalking me for almost a year-I finally gave in, we set some ground rules to fit the people we are now. That was 7 months ago-although there have been a few rough patches, but he is my man now, and yes, I do cater to him-I don’t care who knows or likes it.
We have both been living alone in the years since we became single again and are rather used to our independence-so he lives and works in town and I live and work here in BFE-we take turns staying at one another’s places. We cook together sometimes, but most times I cook for him. We aren’t married, but I’m his woman in a committed relationship that we both decided on when we knew we wanted to try again and succeed at what we screwed up when we were young-so far, so good...
Good for you, although I can hear the gaggle of pearl-clutchers gasping all over the forum.
Girl, you better put a ring on that one, or someone else will.