Posted on 09/30/2017 12:49:02 PM PDT by BJ1
But slowly, over the course of six years, our physical relationship dwindled to nothing. I buried it because I had no idea how to talk about it, let alone fix it. Those years were pre-internet and pre-social media; I couldn’t simply tap my problem into Google and find answers.
It’s agonising to be in a relationship full of love and lacking in sex. It’s a tragedy, in fact, or it was for me. And a sexless relationship carries a lot of shame. Just as having too much sex is taboo, so is having none.
I kept quiet. Instead, my repressed sexuality took on a life of its own, and I dreamed of sexy trysts with other men, and, being a writer, these dreams went down on paper in the form of a novel, The Tryst, published later this week.
Of course, we split up, eventually. When a couple isn’t having sex, especially a younger couple, the frustrated energy has to go somewhere. It usually ends up going outside the relationship, and it did.
He had an affair — galling, given our situation — and that was the end of things. I was 41. I ran away and regrouped. What followed was a decade of sexual seeking and exploration, a campaign of self-education.
My mission was never again to fall into this no-sex relationship trap. What had happened and why? I was determined to find out. I allowed myself to be a guinea pig, and took many bold and courageous leaps. In doing so I tried everything, and today, aged 52, I’m much more sexually confident.
(Excerpt) Read more at dailymail.co.uk ...
Not true. There are men who are asexual and they don’t tell you this before marriage. Men think it’s only men who are sexually abandoned in marriage.
BTDT
My wife likes to talk when she is having sex. Just last week she called me from the back of a limo.
I’m sorry to hear of that tragic and saddening story. It just amazes how evil people can be.
Snoot
Thank you Madison for your concern.
God lifts me. Some days though, all I can think about is that 35yr. old son or daughter . . . that might have been. My very soul weeps, still.
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Why are you assuming that she was not also cheating?
Just because she did not admit to cheating, does not mean that she was not doing so...
and also that she was not the first out of the gate !!!
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