So the article’s point is for women to be glad they had sex with a manipulative guy, because they could have ended up marrying him if they withheld sex.
Do you know how many marriages break up because of sexual incompatibility?
No, people of both genders shouldn’t have constant sex with strangers. It isn’t healthy. But premarital sex, done carefully, is probably here to stay, even among the religious. People shouldn’t eat two big pieces of chocolate cake either, but it happens.
And being married to someone who only kisses your butt when he’s horny is definitely not a love relationship. Nor is it good for the man to plan to spend 30-40 years with someone who is so good at refusing sex with him.
Far more than most people think I'd suspect. That's a major reason mine did (well, in addition to the issues she refused to deal with as a result of her being sexually molested by her own father when she was a teenager. That's a whole 'nother can of worms I didn't know about her when we married.)
No, people of both genders shouldn’t have constant sex with strangers. It isn’t healthy. But premarital sex, done carefully, is probably here to stay, even among the religious. People shouldn’t eat two big pieces of chocolate cake either, but it happens.
As a single male in his mid 50's, this is something I've been struggling with as a person of faith. Do those of you who are married and in your 50's have any idea how hard it is to find a quality partner who doesn't want to "kick the tires" on or after the third date before they even get to know much about you? I now understand why so many of my (unfortunately) divorced and Christian friends tell me that I'd have to be prepared to "compromise" my values and faith if I really wanted to find someone to have a long term relationship with. How exactly does one "balance" their desire to find a new mate with their faith in this day and age? I struggle with this, I really do. I don't want to have to have sex with someone to determine sexual compatibility before they allow me to get to know them better as a person. This just seems to me to be so backwards from when I was dating my ex so many years ago. Then again, perhaps I should've kicked her tires way back when prior to committing to a 30 year marriage that failed because among other things, she was frigid as hell?
And being married to someone who only kisses your butt when he’s horny is definitely not a love relationship. Nor is it good for the man to plan to spend 30-40 years with someone who is so good at refusing sex with him.
Allow me to correct you on something: Being married to someone who only wants sex for procreation or in the extremely rare event they're horny isn't a love relationship, nor is it good for a man to spend 30+ years with someone who's so good at refusing sex unless they want it themselves once or twice a year.
Yep, that's how it was.