I worked in an office back eight years ago, which came to be 60-percent women (20 individuals in the section). It was an odd development which would have been 10-percent women in the 1980s.
So as I developed working relationship with the ‘ladies’, I came to their various discussions which were bothering them. Ten of the twelve were divorced. One had wrapped up her fifth divorce....one had two divorces....the rest one each.
These were all women with college backgrounds, technical crafts, bright, etc. In most of the cases though, I came to note that each had built up various ‘filters’...things about guys that they desired and wanted to avoid. It would have been simple if there were only five filters. But these ladies had advanced to the level of fifteen to twenty filters....using their clever and smart analysis. This fifteen-process filter basically eliminated just about every single guy they came into contact with. Being 35 years old or older....that really cut the playing field way down in size.
I suggested to several of them....if you just eliminated half of your filters...you’d have better chances. They weren’t willing to accept that type of scenario. They weren’t too-smart....they simply had use this tool of analysis and built filters that eliminated just about every single guy.
Reminds me of this story...
THE HUSBAND STORE
A store that sells new husbands has just opened in New York City, where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates.
You may visit the store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the attributes of the men increase as the shopper ascends the flights. There is, however, a catch: you may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up a floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!
So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband...
On each floor the signs on the doors read:
Floor 1 - These men have jobs.
Floor 2 - These men have jobs and love kids.
Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love kids, and are extremely good looking. “Wow,” she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework. “Oh, mercy me!” she exclaims, “I can hardly stand it!” Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads:
Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak. She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 3,261,496,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.
Yep, I see this with Mrs WBill's friends, quite frequently.
When you're, um, "full-figured", on the far side of forty, and fairly full of yourself.... you're not going to get a hunky, well-manicured, rich, twenty-something boy-toy who - when he's not tanning and working out - satisfies your every desire, enjoys hanging around with your girlfriends and gay boyfriends, and shares all of your same interests.
'Tisn't how life works. But, "There aren't any good men out there."
“In most of the cases though, I came to note that each had built up various ‘filters’...things about guys that they desired and wanted to avoid. It would have been simple if there were only five filters. But these ladies had advanced to the level of fifteen to twenty filters ...”
I’ve encountered the same phenomenon among single/divorced women with whom I have worked. The eligible men they meet are “too short, too tall, too intellectual, not intellectual enough, too plain, too handsome” (!), and on and on ... Some of them would ask me how mrs riverdawg and I ended up together. I told them we violated every “rule’ in the dating book. We would have never been matched up by a dating-site algorithm.