Not for anything, but when I was in prep school, the dumb jocks had no problem finding girlfriends among the honor roll crowd.
The smart guys got the “You’re a nice guy but ...” speech. Yes, it was high school, and yes, it was the early ‘80s, but has so much changed other than the ratio of males to females in college?
I too used to be one of the “nice guys” you are absolutely right. Women SAY they want that... but thats NOT who they choose...
LOL.
I got that.
Till I said “Fine I won’t be nice. Your but is too big”.
I felt better. learned something. Some women like a holes.
I tried to use this power for good, mostly.
“the dumb jocks had no problem finding girlfriends”
I only know of one from high school who ended up making a good living. I went for a hotrodder, myself...he drove a ‘57 Chevy he’d customized (we’re still together and he’s still extremely smart).