Posted on 09/15/2017 8:15:38 PM PDT by BJ1
If we get straight to the point and skip the BS that’s only used to soften the blow of painful facts, we can admit it’s hard to find a good man. Even if we take our standards, expectations, and delusional hopes off the table and really look at the situation for what it is, we can clearly see that we are not to blame for the lack of good men. No, we have society who can take the blame for this one.
Unfortunately, our culture has evolved in a way that has made finding a good man tough ― and they certainly don’t make them like they used to. So, why is it so damn hard to find an awesome guy who’s going to treat you right and not bail the first time temptation comes his way? Here are nine reasons.
1. Hookup culture has taken over. Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships. Men don’t want to be with one woman only, if they have an entire buffet at their disposal.
2. People have too many options. While it’s good to have options, it can be bad when there are too many options. At any given moment a guy can sit down at a dating app and immediately have endless options of women from which to choose. Because of that, it’s hard for them to give one woman a shot for more than a hot minute.
3. Lots of guys are holding out for something “better.” It’s a sad thought, but in a world with so many options, people can become immersed in the idea that something better might be just around the corner. Because that’s the case, it’s hard to find a man who wants to commit when they’re thinking that the next woman they meet could be perfect ― whatever perfect is.
4. Marriage is becoming obsolete. Once upon a time, people couldn’t wait to get married. Although it was likely due to the fact that they would finally be able to have sex, the reality is that these days people are in no rush to get married, so therefore, they’re in no rush to get into a relationship or settle down. And if a guy’s friends aren’t married, he sure as hell won’t be the first one to do it.
5. Some men are intimidated by power. In comparison to the past few decades, women are more independent than ever. This success and power, for some reason, can be intimidating for some men who, perhaps, realize that they’ll never be the “man” his female partner is.
6. Technology has created distance. How can anyone possibly find a good man or anyone at all when we live in a world where technology rules and our most intimate relationships are with our iPhones? We can’t.
7. The “man-child” is a legitimate problem. A man-child is a just modern day term for a man who suffers from Peter Pan Syndrome: He does not want to grow up. If he grows up, he’d have to become responsible, get his act together, and even maybe find a girl and fall in love. Too many men just don’t want to do that.
8. Everyone has their baggage. No one is immune to having a rocky past, and sometimes that past can interfere with how that person moves forward ― if they move forward at all. Messy baggage can keep even the great guys in hiding for a long time.
9. Being phobic of commitment is accepted. We live in a world where being scared of commitment has simply become the norm. If a man doesn’t want to commit, people are rarely surprised. Since that’s the case, they’ll just keep on skipping out on commitment and sticking to hookup culture, because it’s so accepted.
HOMESTEAD LAW
The old prairie days 1800s, big foreign money would come in and force families out of their home by buying up their land. Foreigners made families homeless.
A law was created that would homestead their home and prevent giving up your home UNDER ALL SITUATIONS. Obviously the Homestead law is still recognized, BUT it is secretive because judges want power.
Like Mueller witch hunt, the judges seek technicalities to violate clear law. DISHONORABLE COURTS. End around.
If you have the right lawyer, little money, the right judge, homestead is still law and supercedes over all.
Do not want homeless familes now do we?
This lawyer told me he wishes to help people keep their homes. I did not keep contact but he spilled many details. Although someday he could end up like that guy with 4 bullets in his back.
The nation needs truly brave folks but rarely gets them. You should always homestead your home just in case it works for you.
And the big kicker is if you DEFAULT on your mortgage,
you STILL OWN THAT HOMESTEAD HOME! A bank cannot kick you out.
Law gets sticky here because it still takes money and a good lawyer to keep the home. And your credit is ruined. But I would love to see group funding to keep families in their house. Amy retired brave lawyers out there, here is your fun project. Put folks in homes.
Banks are REQUIRED to renegotiate. But all parties will lie to the ends of the earth.
I love these threads.
They validate decisions I made decades ago.
Life is not perfect, but I am certainly not ‘unhappy’.
I learned this outlook from friends who are currently certainly unhappy because of ‘family court’.
They forgot the main reason which never changes. The good guys get snapped up fast because women know quality when they see it. I grabbed Mr. GG2 right out from under his sister’s friend’s nose. She is still upset. LOL!
Finally, I shocks me seeing big city homeless families. Why? Many of those homeless would still have the shelter of their house if some group chased the law.
They did not have to be put on the street. The banks would and should be damned because they use funny money.
It = I
>>1. Hookup culture has taken over. Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships. Men don’t want to be with one woman only, if they have an entire buffet at their disposal.
Um, Feministas will tell you that hook-up culture is EMPOWERING (NOW wanted to “smash monogamy”). If you nay say it, you are “slut shaming”. 40 sex partners is no longer scandalous for a woman.
>>2. People have too many options. While it’s good to have options, it can be bad when there are too many options. At any given moment a guy can sit down at a dating app and immediately have endless options of women from which to choose. Because of that, it’s hard for them to give one woman a shot for more than a hot minute.
Many of those “women” on the dating sites don’t even exist. Pornbots promoting cam sites, prostitutes, and phishing scammers.
Every young man should view this video at least five times
The universal Hot/Crazy matrix mapping out Wife Zone.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XuI6GTY9eVc
>>3. Lots of guys are holding out for something “better.” It’s a sad thought, but in a world with so many options, people can become immersed in the idea that something better might be just around the corner. Because that’s the case, it’s hard to find a man who wants to commit when they’re thinking that the next woman they meet could be perfect - whatever perfect is.
Better than someone who has 2 kids by different baby daddies?
Better than someone who has serial co-habitated since graduating high school or college and yet still claims “never been married”?
>>4. Marriage is becoming obsolete. Once upon a time, people couldn’t wait to get married. Although it was likely due to the fact that they would finally be able to have sex, the reality is that these days people are in no rush to get married, so therefore, they’re in no rush to get into a relationship or settle down. And if a guy’s friends aren’t married, he sure as hell won’t be the first one to do it.
Again, this was a GOAL of NOW. Your feminazi “sistas”.
>>And if a guy’s friends aren’t married, he sure as hell won’t be the first one to do it.
That may be true at 22 or 26 but by the time he reaches 35...
And anyone (peer pressure) who holds you back in life isn’t really your friend.
>>5. Some men are intimidated by power. In comparison to the past few decades, women are more independent than ever. This success and power, for some reason, can be intimidating for some men who, perhaps, realize that they’ll never be the “man” his female partner is.
Chip on her shoulder much?
Why not insult him for having a limp-d as well?
Some “successful women” looks down on certain professions/trades or even job titles.
That statement, to me, implies she is.
>>6. Technology has created distance. How can anyone possibly find a good man or anyone at all when we live in a world where technology rules and our most intimate relationships are with our iPhones? We can’t.
Go out and put the phone DOWN.
One dating site asked if it was okay to check phone/answer calls on a date. Women seem to think it’s no big deal.
Try checking texts or taking phone calls when you are on a job interview.
>>7. The “man-child” is a legitimate problem. A man-child is a just modern day term for a man who suffers from Peter Pan Syndrome: He does not want to grow up. If he grows up, he’d have to become responsible, get his act together, and even maybe find a girl and fall in love. Too many men just don’t want to do that.
Sexist cliche.
There are plenty of women (especially Gen-Y and beyond) who dress up for comic cons, play videogames, and obsess over geeky distractions.
There are also women who are reluctant to grow up, and hesitantly do so, calling it “Adulting” and it often comes after they get knocked up and make the choice have the baby.
Again, just call him out for having a limp d*** and be done with it. “It’s ALL his fault”.
>>8. Everyone has their baggage. No one is immune to having a rocky past, and sometimes that past can interfere with how that person moves forward - if they move forward at all. Messy baggage can keep even the great guys in hiding for a long time.
HIS baggage, not hers. What’s in her attic stays.
>>9. Being phobic of commitment is accepted. We live in a world where being scared of commitment has simply become the norm. If a man doesn’t want to commit, people are rarely surprised. Since that’s the case, they’ll just keep on skipping out on commitment and sticking to hookup culture, because it’s so accepted.
Cohabitation is “the norm”. That’s beyond a hookup and it used to be branded as “common law marriage”. Now the girls don’t even go for that commitment.
I know a Catholic girl (never married) who after turning 45 announced her engagement to her boyfriend (an ex she’d returned to after several years). They moved in together and nearly 3 years later there still is no ring or wedding. Maybe she just made the announcement for Nana to approve of her moving in with him.
No mention of “fur babies” and commitment to pets comes before any man.
No mention of precondition life choices that exclude any children (conceived or adopted).
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