No, I get it 100% and am ALWAYS on the side of these good men. Sadly, I am also in that position from the other side, not having the kids taken away but having to raise them alone. My heart breaks for you. But it breaks for me too. I do ridiculous gymnastic backbends to be good, fair, loving. But I got as screwed as you. Marriage sucks.
I’m sorry your marriage failed. But at least you have the benefit of the law giving you child support.
Are you open to getting married again or has your bad experience turned you against it?