[redgolum]

The problem is most people are told the opposite.

In my early 20’s, I was told to “work on the career now, get a wife later”. I did, and ended up realizing I didn’t want the perks of the career without the family.

I married my bride, have two great kids, but know that I am not in a position to achieve what I originally wanted from my career. I can’t and be a good father.

[Mr. Jeeves]

I think what gets missed in all of these lengthy discussions is that human beings are works in progress. Society endures and advances when two pretty good young people meet and marry at 23 or so and have several kids over the next few years and mold each other's personalities and help each other get better. Society does not advance when people overprioritize "career" and hold out until age 38 waiting for Mr./Ms. Perfect - who isn't coming.

When one looks at how much governments and universities and bankers profit from today's cultural bias toward delayed marriages, however, one understands why the propaganda is so intense. :)