If you read over the posts written by some of the men here, you would think all of them are slim guys with a full head of hair who spend their down time reading Proust and Samuel Johnson. Meanwhile,their ex-wives are all fat she-devils. In fact, I’m sure a lot of these guys are slobs in need of a few kicks to the tires. I stand by my post.
If you read over the posts written by some of the women here, you would think that they were all supermodels who spend their time reading Bronte (pick one) and Christie. Meanwhile their (ex)husbands are obese gorillas; boors and bums, bounders and cads. If fact, I’m sure a lot of these gals are frumps in need of a few kicks to the tyres. My post is a simple statement of fact.
I'm a slim guy with a full head of hair and I spend my down time reading Tolstoy and Shakespeare. My ex-wife, while slim and attractive, is, in fact, the Queen of all She-devils.
>>>If you read over the posts written by some of the men here, you would think all of them are slim guys with a full head of hair who spend their down time reading Proust and Samuel Johnson. Meanwhile,their ex-wives are all fat she-devils. In fact, I’m sure a lot of these guys are slobs in need of a few kicks to the tires. I stand by my post.<<<
For the sake of argument, let’s suppose most of these guys have more slob than Mr. Perfect, and an ex-wife that is more average than a fat she-devil.
The bitterness that comes from many of the men on FR is getting screwed over by the system. How many guys come home to the words “I’m not in love with you anymore”? Without the man’s consent he’s getting divorced. Then he finds out his wife has turned into his enemy and very often is set to destroy him. If a guy gets amicably divorced he’s lucky. He’ll “just” get off with losing half his assets and paying child support and possibly alimony. If his wife isn’t so kind, and they usually aren’t, he will also get trashed in all ways to everyone. Relationships between the father and children are likely to be destroyed. Now the man is left bereft of wealth, with a significantly lower standard of living and has little or no access to his children.
And women just say to themselves its the man’s fault it didn’t work out. Uh what? I don’t care if the guy wasn’t an awesome husband. If he is plodding along as a workhorse for the family, he never deserves to have the above happen to him. We all make choices and here on FR I think we agree marriage should be a forever thing barring something drastic like an affair. Sadly the most drastic thing many of the guys did here on FR was not “do it” for their wives anymore. Sure many of the times the man was lazy and took his wife for granted. But even then are you going to argue that man deserved to get divorced against his will?
And when a man does a woman wrong, typically she will keep the kids, the house and gets financially supported with child support/alimony. That part seems fair to me as a man, as the husband was the one doing the leaving. But when the consequences are just as harsh when the woman does the wrong thing, well, let me just offer my opinion that is where the bitterness comes from.