Since this began felt the father was either “out of touch” or just in a position to not know what was going on for reasons I will never understand.
Never mind the teacher, how can your own wife be abusing 5 of your kids and you not know? Yes he was on the road a lot with his job but no one told him? So you are telling me they kept him in the dark that well? To look at his soon to be ex wife she dies not appear all that intelligent as to hide that kind of abuse.
If you are gone most of the time for work and become a visitor in your own home a lot can happen without you knowing.
This situation is not uncommon, I have worked in family law and have been involved in cases where parents were divorcing and neither one of them wanted the kids or one specific kid.
On a couple occasions, I had to explain to a 10-12 year old child that neither parent wanted them.
After doing that, I stepped into my my office, screamed, smashed things, kicked things and cried like a baby.
I would rather work with axe murderers than deal with that kind of divorce.