This wasn't your first pick?
Posted on 03/29/2017 6:38:26 AM PDT by C19fan
As chief bridesmaid at her best friend’s wedding, Claire Duke knew a certain amount of responsibility and planning would fall to her.
What she didn’t imagine was that it would cost her so much money to attend the lavish ceremony that her debt would last longer than her friend’s marriage.
Claire’s friend, Siobhan, chose a Caribbean beach setting for her big day four years ago. Claire, 33, a chef from the Isle of Man, says: ‘They wanted us to be there no matter what.’
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... and on social media. Social media images and video are driving a lot of odd behavior. I've often thought if cell phones were jammed at all those protests, they'd give up and go home. It's all about the live streaming and sending OMG Look At Me! pics as they occur.
Not all. Definitely not this woman.
I’d have been happy without the gown. It was hubby who insisted.
This wasn't your first pick?
A further extension of the ENTITLEMENT attitude of today’s people. I just walk away from any kind of demand, but I am not attending weddings either,
It should also be noted that marriage has a profound biological purpose, making it far superior to just monogamy.
This ends up with a peculiar juxtaposition.
Spiritual joining under religious auspices, hoping to augment and strengthen the essential social exclusion of the couple from sexual relations with others. That is, marriage is supposed to put them off limits to others. It is vital that it at least tries to do so.
But also the strong encouragement of fecundity, a lot of children, and the sooner the better. Which entails a bawdiness which existed until modern times.
Until people finally understood the mechanisms of reproduction (as well as communicable disease), they had to rely on bawdiness to overcome the high childbirth and infant mortality rates by having large families, and children to insure a healthy retirement for their parents.
So what we end up with is a meaningless secular document signing, followed by a prudish religious ceremony, that in past wasn’t very prudish at all, followed by a bawdy, maybe alcohol fueled reception, and other encouragements to reproduce.
Yes, but witnessing a desire to conform to this "Kardashian Norm" should be an early indicator that one has picked the wrong bride. :)
You ended up with a great story to tell the rest of your lives! That’s better than having a “perfect” wedding, I think. People get too hung up on it having to be perfect.
I don’t understand people who have to make an insulting remark to someone who basically agrees with them.
We have 3 daughters. The first married in the church, using their facilities, much of the catering done by us, and it was nice and reasonable...
Along comes the #2 Disney Princess....
She is marrying later this spring, and they are going in debt to do it, even with my stated contribution towards the event.
The kicker was when during one of the pre-check meetings (taste-testing events) that I was handed my total bill for the wedding, and it was 40% higher than what my stated contribution was to be. I felt very used and had no opportunity to complain as there was a large attendance with all the various inlaws, and didn't want to make a scene. The Mrs. and I had a nice long discussion on the drive back about how this was the last straw, and from this point on they either pay out of pocket or elope (embarrassment or not)...
Already working on #3 to keep it small, and even elope, with me contributing significantly to their start in life...
So much for showing up to give the bride away and doing the father/daughter dance...
My daughter was married last September for the first time. The wedding was in the back area of a bar. I was a little worried when she told me this; but, you could actually rent out the entire bar, guests at the wedding only, and the back area was actually quite nice for a wedding. The guest list was not very large, around 50 people, and it was a nice wedding. There is no need to go broke paying for a wedding. The important part is family and friends of both bride and groom, getting together to celebrate a new union — the creation of a new family.
A former co-worker of mine staged her “destination wedding” in Costa Rica, forcing friends and family members to dig deep in their pockets. She was divorced two years later.
Women are taught that that this is the one time it is socially acceptable to blatantly boss people around, and that others are obligated to obey them.
They are wrong.
There is a concept called “Princessing”. It states that parents (mainly fathers) coddle their daughters to the point that the daughters, once adults, are wholly unable to operate as a normal person in our society. This is an example of that.
I was once invited to a friends’ wedding. She was a chick. It was in Hawaii. I was broke. I either went to the wedding or I made my car payment. She pressed me hard. I was made uncomfortable, as if my absence would fully ruin her day. I finally manned up and told her tough shitski, and we are no longer friends.
When the wedding is a second marriage for both, and they were both living with their first partners when they started their relationship, I have trouble with the idea of celebrating the “happy occasion”. That was the most recent one for which I sent my regrets.
frivolous gotta have industries
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The narcissism industry seems to be doing well. Jus sayin...
When you spend so much on a wedding, the only thing that could possibly be more gay is a gay wedding.
Just advertise by word of mouth, unless you want a homosexual couple to try to bully you into letting them use your facility.
Actually, with the bible verses we will have on the wall regarding marriage, I’d probably let a homosexual have their event there. But part of the terms are that they can’t cover any of it up. And to be clear, it deals directly with marriage being between a man and a woman.
If they are that desperate, so be it.
To be clear, I’m just thinking out loud, in case one “gets through.”
You are so right. We have enjoyed the irony for 40 years : )
We all got what we wanted out of our wedding. we built a life together and Mom threw a party.
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