Interesting. My local dealer is so friendly it makes you wonder about that whole 'stereotypical Harley customer' thing. I look nothing like a biker dude. When I bought a Sportster there several years ago, it was one of the best retail experiences I've ever had. No pressure, and no attempt to up-sell. Made me feel like family.
If you look at the responses I got, it seems my HD experience was not unique. You may be the exception.