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In addition to the main article in the URL, there is an PDF link to the research brief. In the brief they address divorce.

"The science could not be clearer: on average, men enjoy more money, better sex, and better health when they are married. But of course not everyone who gets married will stay married. About 42 percent of ﬁrst marriages end in divorce, and the majority of these divorces are initiated by women.10 This means that a large minority of men who marry will end up unwillingly divorced. These men often don’t realize much of a return on their investments in married life."

I'm curious what you single guys think......are the benefits of marriage worth the risk of getting divorced?

This study just seems to gloss over it divorce as ...yeah 42% of first marriages end in divorce, but the brief goes on about a number of things a guy can do to reduce his risk.....so go ahead and get married?

“Contrary to the notion that marriage is detrimental to men, it turns out that the benefits are substantial by every conceivable measure, including greater financial well-being, higher quality of sexual life, and significantly better physical and mental health outcomes,” wrote Wilcox and Wolfinger in “Men & Marriage: Debunking the Ball and Chain Myth.”

They are confusing the outcomes of men who wanted to get married with what would happend if unmotivated men would get married.

There is no worse marital partner than someone who didn't want to get married or make the appropriate commitment in the first place.

They are correct that more education is needed, but God forbid that any group taking government money should do the educating. Churches and synagogues should insist on educating couples according to their denominational belief system before agreeing to marry anyone.

As for secularists who plan lavish weddings in hotels with a justice of the peace as officiant, lots of luck. You're going to need it.

Life is easier when you’re part of a team. When you’re half of a good marriage all of life’s difficulties (burying parents, getting laid, thinking you’re having a heart attack) are easier to navigate. Which isn’t saying go ahead and get married, you need to pick well, otherwise you’re signing up for extra life difficulties.

Here’s the funny thing: The “ball and chain” IS NOT A BAD THING. It’s to men what an anchor is to a ship and woe to the culture that not only doesn’t push men toward it, but actively sabotages this ‘anchor’.