There is a huge difference between abuse and slap or two on the butt to get the kids attention. Especially if they are wearing diapers. ;)
My sister and I were hit with a spatula and I went to school with bruises on my arms. Had to wear long sleeves. I remember hiding under the table in the basement, but my mother dragged me out, to continue beating me up.
It is not easy being a parent. But there’s a difference between trying to correct a child, for his or her good, and taking out your anger on them.
If a little toddler is trying to cross the highway, and you have to slap him or her on the butt so they know you mean business, I don’t think that’s wrong.
As I said, it’s not easy raising children. You just have to pray for guidance.
I believe in spanking and have zero angst over it to be candid
It’s raising boys in my culture
That would be the southern one but granted I’m an older parent
A boomer not an Xer or millennial
It’s also why alpha boys like mine need dads not moms going it alone
You shouldn’t beat your kids
I don’t spank anymore
They are all too old and my baby at 9 with me almost 60 has never needed it
He hates absolutely my disapproval ...spanking him would be cruel...I think I did once or twice lightly when he was 4 maybe
Now my oldest beat his two years younger brother up a few years ago
He was maybe 12 and the younger...my middle boy was 10....his mom and I were out downstairs at the W in Miami and came in and I knew right away
He outweighed him by 60-70 pounds ....I pulled my then 6 year old youngest aside and he told me that blank hit blank in the face over and over and judging from the knots he was t lying
I spanked him good him with a belt him thrashing about carrying on.....like a banshee but I wasn’t gonna stand for him pummeling his nearly defenseless little bro.....btw....they are an even match now...and don’t fight
That was the last and only time I had any guilt.....I felt cause I humiliated him but I felt i had to protect the smaller one
Mom sure couldn’t....not all 100 pounds of her
If you don’t get ahold of boys you can have lord of the flies quick...granted though some boys are really mild and easy....some are not
I never saw much need for spanking daughters.....maybe as toddlers a mild swat to warn of dangerous behavior......daughters of course often become a nightmare at mid teens but are way too old for spanking then