give me a person that struggled in life and has a good personality any day over one that life has not given them challenges. it is the fact that it is the struggle that builds personality and makes us a better person. if we were to allow the Margret sangers of the world to determine who was of value we would die as a species as with each generation are definition of who is valuable gets narrower and narrower tell we get to the point that all that makes us human is gone.
At first glance some folks might have had this reaction to my former roommate Jim, "There but for the grace of God go I". After I got to know him, my reaction was "God, I wish I were half the man Jim is.".