I’ve read a lot of books like that. My favorite is probably Life After Life by Moody. You’re right. Some of the things are uncanny. The good thing is, we’ll all find out someday.
I have had surgery under anesthesia that contains memory blocking so that you don’t wake up groggy; you are so alert, you may not even think anything has happened. It’s like taking videotape, cutting out footage, and resplicing the tape. If there is any sort of continuity, the viewer is completely unaware a section is missing.
That, to me, is what death is like. Except the tape doesn’t continue after the splice, and you never wake up.
Well I think it is best to live your life as if you do wake up into the next life and have to be accountable for everything you thought said and did. If there is no afterlife then of course it doesn’t matter. But if there is..... a comfortable and happy eternity is nothing to sneeze at.