So when you put it all together, it's not a reach to have Americans get freaked out of their mellow when they come face to face with themselves and their teacher gives them nowhere to hide. I've been there myself, many times. I'm just not surprised about it anymore when it happens. But I was quite impressed that the Dalai Lama cared enough about the problem to address it with so much compassion.
I understand. My clumsiness for calling them accusations. I would agree with your points.
I heard a similar story about the Dalai Lama’s first encounter with westerner’s low self-esteem. I don’t recall details of the discussion now but he was speaking with some western students and teachers and someone asked him about self-esteem in some way. He was perplexed, an eye-blinking wtf moment. They had to explain low self-esteem to him and he then explained that Tibetans don’t feel sorry for themselves and he had never heard of such a thing. At least not as a widespread cultural phenomenon.