I don’t blame you for being angry! The encroachment into our private lives because of “Social Services” has become unbearable in many cases. I’d let them know their nosiness is out of line. It falls under the same type of intrusion as a doctor asking if you have a gun in your house.
It’s coming. When I had a baby in the UK....after the midwifes ‘did their duty’...I was supplied a ‘case worker’ who was an effin’ Nazi.....to check up on ‘baby’....and report back to ‘state’. I kid you not. She despised my family and I.
See my previous post. We used to rely on family for such things, but now alas often there is no responsible family member available. And the "privacy" laws mean you could be fined if you called grand mom down the street to check in on the kid or elder.