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I Can’t Stop Bashing My Husband to Other Moms, and I’m Sorry
New York Magazine ^ | 6/17

Posted on 06/18/2016 11:57:16 AM PDT by nickcarraway

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To: nickcarraway

I would avoid “friends” that would be that critical. And find some who were more positive. It takes two to make a good marriage and being positive is not always easy but always the better choice.


121 posted on 06/18/2016 5:31:27 PM PDT by MomwithHope (Missing you /johnny (JRandomFreeper).)
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To: OpusatFR

I just got rid of spouse pretty much just like the one you described. Theyll never find the body. Hehe. But seriously, I’m
broke, alone and considerably more happy than I have been for quite some time.


122 posted on 06/18/2016 5:57:13 PM PDT by Noumenon ("Objects in history may be closer than they appear")
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To: nickcarraway
The feminists have programmed you well.

LOL what are you talking about? I've walked away from the plantation. I also don't have much of a libido to speak of. Powerless


123 posted on 06/18/2016 5:58:03 PM PDT by wastedyears (Trump has all the right enemies.)
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To: usconservative

MGTOW means men going their own way. Basically walking away from the plantation, ie. dating, marriage, and for the most part relationships in general.


124 posted on 06/18/2016 5:59:04 PM PDT by wastedyears (Trump has all the right enemies.)
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To: nickcarraway

Bump for later read.


125 posted on 06/18/2016 6:06:57 PM PDT by Inspectorette
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To: wastedyears

MGTOW = men unwittingly becoming tools of the feminist agenda.


126 posted on 06/18/2016 6:24:39 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: nickcarraway

127 posted on 06/18/2016 6:51:32 PM PDT by JoeProBono (SOME IMAGES MAY BE DISTURBING ’VIEWER DISCRETION IS ADVISED;-{)
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To: OpusatFR

***In the main, I find today’s crop of whining women to be the most self-involved and selfish bunch of twits.***

And what do you call this? I call it the same thing you just accused women of being.


128 posted on 06/18/2016 7:09:59 PM PDT by Lil Flower (American by birth. Southern by the Grace of God. ROLL TIDE!!)
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To: Lil Flower; wardaddy

Hey Lil Flower,

It’s Saturday night on Free Republic. It’s a tradition here for guys to drink wine or a beer and complain about how awful women are.

If they could get a date with a 23 year old with big breasts they’d be out of here in a minute. LOL


129 posted on 06/18/2016 7:14:54 PM PDT by ladyjane
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To: nickcarraway

I think you got that backwards.

Feminists cannot exist without male wage slaves. The more men that refuse to work astronomical hours to support fedgov, ex wife/baby momma, and the welfare state...the sooner the house of cards falls on the blue haired hambeasts’ head.


130 posted on 06/18/2016 7:16:19 PM PDT by Tailback
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To: Lil Flower

oh dear. Did I hit a nerve? Too close to home perhaps?


131 posted on 06/18/2016 7:35:01 PM PDT by OpusatFR
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To: nickcarraway
First, I want to say this is a brutally honest piece that was probably very difficult to write, and I appreciate this.

Here is the crux of the problem that the writer and other women like her are experiencing:

Then again, I can’t take it out on my husband either. Not to his face. Not if I want to stay married.

I've seen this as I've worked with couples for a long time, and I hate to say it, but often this comes from the woman's side a LOT more than the man's side:

"I simply can't tell them that!"

The fact is that your spouse should be the ONE person you can be completely open and vulnerable to. Your spouse is the ONE person that you can share your frustrations, your failures, your anger, your complaints, your whines, your insecurities, and your fears with.

If you can't, then you are missing the core aspect of trust in your relationship, and that missing core, more than anything else, is what causes marital disintegration.

When I see a couple who keep secrets, bad talk each other to others, or start comparing their spouse to other people in a negative way, I know there are serious problems festering deep down.

Now an occasional comment born from frustration will inevitably happen, but when it is rare and followed (or preceded) with a declaration of love for the other person and an apology for needing to voice it then you can mark that off as incidental and not systemic. The systemic running down of the spouse, as described in this article, is sadly where many people are sometimes before the literal honeymoon ends.

132 posted on 06/18/2016 7:44:40 PM PDT by Anitius Severinus Boethius (www.wilsonharpbooks.com - Sign up for my new release e-mail and get my first novel for free)
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To: Utilizer

***One particular ex***

Wait, “one” particular ex?


133 posted on 06/18/2016 7:45:57 PM PDT by Lil Flower (American by birth. Southern by the Grace of God. ROLL TIDE!!)
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To: nickcarraway

How could you possibly misconstrue the acronym? And you’re even making fun of it? As Milo says, feminism is cancer.


134 posted on 06/18/2016 7:57:06 PM PDT by wastedyears (Trump has all the right enemies.)
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To: nickcarraway

I help out with the house work. It was just last night, I put my own coffee cup in the dish washer.


135 posted on 06/18/2016 9:30:09 PM PDT by Graybeard58 (Crooked Hillary's going down and I aint talkin about, on Huma.)
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136 posted on 06/18/2016 9:39:12 PM PDT by Graybeard58 (Crooked Hillary's going down and I aint talkin about, on Huma.)
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137 posted on 06/18/2016 9:41:38 PM PDT by Graybeard58 (Crooked Hillary's going down and I aint talkin about, on Huma.)
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138 posted on 06/18/2016 9:44:01 PM PDT by Graybeard58 (Crooked Hillary's going down and I aint talkin about, on Huma.)
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To: Black Agnes

>>>Dissing your man to other women lessens the likelihood one of them will try to poach him<<<

As long as they don’t find out that the Woman’s pet name for her Husband is The Human Tripod. Could be problematic.


139 posted on 06/18/2016 9:55:44 PM PDT by Kickass Conservative (If Scandals were Brains, Hillary would be the smartest person on the Planet.)
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To: Ketill Frostbeard

“I lived with someone special and she started “naked spaghetti night” as our little custom.”

Thank you for sharing about a very sweet time in your life.


140 posted on 06/18/2016 11:36:03 PM PDT by JohnnyP
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