Cold parents that kept her sheltered, she met a boy and didn’t know the facts of life. Overcompensating proving herself to parents’ silence ever after.
She had free psych counseling at the state U where she was doing research. Falling into drug dependency was for her a liberation from the guilt/pain, I was seeing a different person, and the first time I communicated what I was seeing she labeled me “unsupportive” and put me in the same box as her parents. We disconnected for a year, she called one day and her life was in freefall...but she didn’t want to see me, acted like I was an abuser whose crime she couldn’t remember.
And that’s as much as I need to say.
Sounds like she really suffered during her childhood. Did she ever join AA?