Thanks for the Prager link. I read it all.
I find it hard to defend my insistence on formality; I just cant find the words or formulate an argument sometimes.
That article helped coalesce my argument, so thanks.
Oh great...that’s neat you think along the sane lines as Prager. I’m very informal. I should be called the anti-beaversmom. But I do understand the importance of it at special occasions. I was very surprised to see kids PERFORMING at the same piano recital as my little girl come to it wearing baseball caps, ratty t-shirts, and sneakers.