Interesting example, and one that would be magnified for lottery winners who “just wanted to help” their friends and family.
Sounds like your friend was buying a share of control and her beneficiaries rebelled. Both common. No one should give what they aren’t willing to lose or leave freely in the control of the recipient. Give only what you WANT to and wash your hands of it. NEVER bring it up again. Those that constantly remind of their gifts? You wish they’d never done you good!
This puts MORE responsibility on a lottery winner in that some people in their lives must be DENIED fantasy cars, homes, etc. They are not eligible recipients, or the giver cannot freely give to them without hidden chains.
“Sounds like your friend was buying a share of control “
No more calls, we have a winner. That’s exactly what happened. My siblings are both destitute. One of them will kill themselves if I give them enough money to do it. I could give the other a million dollars and they would be broke by the next day.
That’s why I like the idea of a foundation. You want money? Apply for it but almost all is going to some schools and Samaritans Purse.