I never had any problems with Veemies. Some of us sneaked onto the grounds once during Mock Convention. There were some dates/girlfriends present as well (this was before the Asteroid hit). Some cadets invited us into their dorm room and we had a good old time visiting.
I was invited to wl parties and in return I snuck a friend into barracks so he could form up for Breakfast roll call. Nobody noticed. I snuck a member of the Dutch navy into a dance once with a date.
VMI cadets are resourceful. The police chief is an idiot if this is true. It’s probably little different from any other close campus situation. There is a difference between VMI and w&l that is amusing to explore if one is so inclined. But we cold peaceably drink from the same keg whenever there was occasion to do so.