I’ve read most of the Sharpe books, but never got to see the series-Cornwell’s books have always been popular with my family.
I don’t mind sex and violence if it is part of the history of the times and not just gratuitous-9th century Britain was such a time, but I didn’t let the cub read or watch the strong stuff like that until she was 14-15-the way women were taken violently and without consent in those times, and bartered away into arranged marriages or worse by relatives was not something I felt she needed to read or see until she was mature enough to process that.
I find that the description of the events in books is often a lot less graphic than attempts at depiction. It’s one thing to read, “They had sex,” and something else again to see it shown.
Same with violence. “He was shot,” or “His head was cut off,” or “He was drawn and quartered.” What a director chooses to film could be just about anything.