That sword cuts both ways.
Men have beer bellies, are unshaven, toothless, have no interest in personal hygiene, dress pretty slovenly themselves, and if your talk is an example of men’s language, you have no business complaining about how women talk.
And when all men expect that in spite of all the aforementioned, they deserve a woman that looks like post 9, then they’re going to be dissatisfied with what they see.
Sure, men would love to have a Victoria's Secret model who cooks well, and has a supercharged libido. But men necessarily develop more realistic views of their prospects.
It's the men who are expected to initiate asking women out, and bear the emotional risk of rejection. They thus develop an idea as to what kind of women are receptive to their approach. Women don't, and can more easily delude themselves that Prince Charming will eventually show up and marry them.
Women are further disadvantaged by the fact that Prince Charming occasionally DOES ask them out. But only when he doesn't have better prospects lined up. Just because Prince Charming will occasionally sleep with them, they delude themselves that he will marry them. Nope.
Lastly, men would rather date a woman they are only marginally interested in, than stay home alone. Women are more likely to stay home than date a guy who doesn't excite them.
New York has LIFETIME alimony, any guy would be insane to be married in New York with their courts designed to punish men.
Like I said, you better look more like Candice Swanepoel if you have a liberal arts degree and tons of student loan debt like the writer and expect someone to marry you.