>>That said, if I am widowed, my next wife will be an illiterate 18 year old Peasant girl. I will refuse to allow her to learn English, and will only lavish her with praise if she keeps the house clean and cooks well. If this turns off some of you single Freeper women, good.<<
I re-entered the dating world post 40. I work a solitary self employed job. I thought online dating would be a great way to meet women. I did some research after being disappointed and here is what I learned.
1) Middle aged women haven’t come to terms that they have fading looks and are not as desirable as they used to be.
2) These women have very high standards. Usually they want a man to be similarly or higher educated and ditto with income. He must be taller. Most put on their profile they want a man who is very close to her age and hence excluding older men of more than 5 years.
3) They are confused what men want. They talk a ton about their dogs/cats. They go on and on about their jobs. They basically seem to write a profile that another woman would enjoy. Rarely do these women talk about things that a man like me cares about. Like are they kind, nurturing and do they know how to cook and generally make a man happy?
I said to myself, most of these women are not worth the effort required to have a good marriage. I found another dating site for another country and found exactly what I was looking for. More women that fit the mold I was looking for than I could shake a stick at. Once I saw that, I realized I did not have to compromise.
Where have all the good men gone? Well I humbly suggest a large number of these complaining, college educated, privileged princesses are simply unappealing for many men. Which might be part of their problem finding said good man.
A lot of women have become gay men trapped in women’s bodies, like the women on “Sex And the City”.
I tried the online dating thing for a few years.
In the part of the profile where you say what you are looking for I always stated I ‘wanted a giver’, because that is what I was offering.
I was amazed at the number of negative responses I received for those simple words.
Bizarre.
Generally until retirement, a man's earnings and his potential increase with time; (e.g. until he hits retirement age, he is increasing his ability to be a caregiver and provider).
I don't really care about a woman's earning potential.
I want someone kind, loving, caring, and family oriented. If you wasted the best years of your life being a "career woman" and being "independent," it should come as no surprise that you are still "independent" (read "alone") later in life.
Conversely, as a woman gets older, her attractiveness, child bearing, and desirability decreases.
Women in there upper to mid-30s are the worst. They've finally paid down their college debt and suddenly want a family to fill the big hole in their life.....only problem is the biological clock is ticking and so it has to be "now, now, now." Oh, and this is after they're done checking into FaceBook, texting 300 people, and this whole relationship/family thing can't interfere with her career.....just so long as it's "right now!"
It's like buying a car. Do I want to buy an American one that's finicky with multiple owners, high mileage, and that someone else horsed on, or can I be happier with a newer import one that's more reliable model with less mileage and fewer owners?
I'm happy with my current girl [American]. Awhile back, I had started dating again and was close to focusing solely on foreign girls. I was fortunate enough to find an American chick with the same values as me......took me long enough.
I re-entered the dating world post 40. I work a solitary self employed job. I thought online dating would be a great way to meet women. I did some research after being disappointed and here is what I learned.
1) Middle aged women haven’t come to terms that they have fading looks and are not as desirable as they used to be.
2) These women have very high standards. Usually they want a man to be similarly or higher educated and ditto with income. He must be taller. Most put on their profile they want a man who is very close to her age and hence excluding older men of more than 5 years.
3) They are confused what men want. They talk a ton about their dogs/cats. They go on and on about their jobs. They basically seem to write a profile that another woman would enjoy. Rarely do these women talk about things that a man like me cares about. Like are they kind, nurturing and do they know how to cook and generally make a man happy?
This is so absolutely spot on. There are things you avoid like the plague. It amazes me that women fail to see it. Never date a woman with the following images in her profile; solo pictures of their dog or cat(s), group or individual photos with her drinking, her in some exotic/iconic foreign location.
You may be surprised by the last one. I've found that women over 40 take pictures of that once in a lifetime trip and think they're going to be doing it every year for the foreseeable future and they're globetrotters making $60k. They are likely very financially irresponsible.
Well, there's one problem right there.
A woman does not want her sole purpose in life to be to *make a man happy*. If that's what you're looking for, you can continue to expect to have trouble finding someone.
If men are just looking for someone to wait on them and cater to them, they they ought to just hire a housekeeper. That just sends a signal to women that the man is selfish and self-serving. No woman wants to wait on a man who sits in front of the TV vicariously living his dream life with a beer in one hand, a remote in the other, and yelling at the stupid referee who's blind as a bat.
Does it ever occur to men that THEY aren't Mr. America's either? THEIR appearance plays a role in it as well.
For all the complaints about how women look and let themselves go, and are fat, men ought to take a good hard look in the mirror and check the belt size.
Many women have trouble with their weight as a result of child bearing.
I don't see that as an excuse any men can appeal to. So what is their excuse except for too much beer?
And when did men get this mentality that they can have the free and easy life while the women cook and clean for them are are expected to be ready to hop in the sack any time the man wants?
How many men give women a reason to WANT to have sex with them?
Marriage is not a one side or the other relationship where one does all the heavy lifting and the other goes along for the ride.
BOTH sides need to be more realistic about what it takes to be in that kind of relationship.
I am single in my 40s too and there is a lot of dead on truth about what you say. It can be pretty ridiculous for a woman who is about to “hit the wall” with her looks and age.