When I would take my kids to the playground, it wasn’t hard to pick out the kids that had never been spanked; their lazy misguided parents were going to inflict the little snots on the rest of us...
Yes pretty much the same experience here. One particular incident, two other moms were sitting with me while our kids played together at the park. One mom was explaining that the reason they would never spank their children was because her husband had been ‘beaten daily’ by his mother and that children not raised with violence were not violent. About that time, we all happened to glance at the kids just in time to see her son pick up a rake by the volleyball pit and swing it like a ball bat, hitting my kid in the back with the rake end. They were probably both 3 at the time, so he could barely swing the thing and my kid was lucky, but the intent to do harm - violence - was obviously there.
The boy’s mom was much more intent on quietly asking him, over and over, why did he do it, and then explaining that it was just an accident and he was trying to rake the sand. Yeah, that’s not how it worked lady, and you saw it.
Exactly.