[Albion Wilde]

I get that you are very upset over this issue and may have a personal reason to feel that way. But individual experiences are not statistics. I have studied the statistics and the dynamics behind them objectively, did Ivy graduate work in the area of marriage in society and law, and have followed the trends in this area since 1991. None of my posts are taking the side of women over the side of men; just pointing out that the entire divorce industry can be brutal to many people of either sex. While men might receive the short end in one way, women receive it in other ways, and trying to continue blaming the basic nature of women or of men just compounds the distortions introduced by pressure groups such as feminists, father's rights, et cetera.

You complain that more women than men "get custody," but in order to evaluate the validity of your claim, it would have to be presented against how many men seek custody and under what circumstances. Divorce settlements remain a case-by-case situation.

Divorce is a bad, bad thing for everyone involved. My conclusion after years of study is that people should seek marriage classes and instruction before getting married, and churches should demand marriage education before agreeing to marry people. Of course, there is always civil marriage for people who want to live like homosexuals and base their marriage on an emotional/financial/sexual footing rather than a deep spiritual covenant between themselves and God.

And there is nothing classroom work can do for a couple who felt entitled to monkey sex without a marriage commitment, got accustomed to a spiritually deficient relationship, made it "permanent" and then had it all blow up when the usual sacrifices parenthood demands started taking all the fun out of it. That's just the hard truth. What "no-fault" has done is take away all moral accountability and an objective standard of morality from marriage. If the law does not demand fidelity, financial responsibility or sobriety, for instance, and does not punish adultery, financial irresponsibility or substance abuse at divorce, then it all boils down to how much money the lawyers can soak a divorcing couple for. At that point, who gets what is only a game to them; whatever brings them the most profit is what gets done—man, woman, and child be damned.

[Pikachu_Dad]

Shame on you. That was a despicable answer.

[Pikachu_Dad]

Good grief , are you really this dense?

“You complain that more women than men “get custody,” but in order to evaluate the validity of your claim, it would have to be presented against how many men seek custody and under what circumstances. Divorce settlements remain a case-by-case situation.”

The statistics are well known and have been known for a long, long time.

Perhaps you should have bothered to read some of the many infamous studies the women’s groups had done in the early 80’s.

The gender bias against men by the courts must end.