“Well there is a big difference between the married men at church (who are clean, well fed, and running things), vs the unmarried forty-year-olds.”
Your comments suggest the “unmarried forty-year-olds” are not “clean, well fed, and running things”, when in actuality they are.
Perhaps somewhere, but not at my church. There was a single preacher once but he was a notorious slob who oddly enough felt the need to announce he was an atheist and that nobody was allowed to show him religious intolerance since he was otherwise qualified.
I do think dating after a certain point is like the joke about Alaska, the odds are good, but the goods are odd.