It sounds like he dislikes having to take responsibility for his own life. He is used to being directed or alert and dislikes having to do it himself. It sounds like he equates living together with being taken care of and would prefer to be taken care of.
That’s not what he’s saying. Living alone makes it easy to be selfish. Living with others helps us get over our selfishness because we have to look out for each other. Living in tight spaces with others builds character.