Posted on 11/29/2014 5:46:24 PM PST by SeekAndFind
There are many predictors of the success of a marriage, among them the having of money, the having of children, and the length of time a couple spends dating before they tie the knot.
Another big predictor, though, is age: The closer a couple is when it comes to their respective birth years, the greater their chances of avoiding divorce.
That's according to a study that compiled polling data from more than 3,000 recently married and divorced Americans.
The studythe overall findings of which my colleague Olga Khazan highlighted last monthused a multivariate model to calculate the factors that seemed to best predict the marriage's chances of success. (Or, at any rate, its chances of not ending in divorce.) Its results were visualized by the data scientist Randy Olson, who created a series of charts to illustrate the study's findings.
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Actually that formula is for the lowest age of a person that you should date.
Similarly, by algebra, the highest you should go is your age, minus 7 all multipled by 2.
40 years old range is 27 on the low end, 66 on the high end.
I am known for pushing the limit at the low end... I like ‘em sweet and innocent, not jaded, tatted up, and bred multiple times to multiple sires.
If there is a true correlation at the lower end, it probably relates to couples knowing each other through school, church and community as they were growing up. 5 years means the couple were not in the same school cohort and probably didn’t meet until after college and didn’t spend much time together outside dating.
It seems counter-intuitive in this day and age, but the most successful marriages I know met in high school or early in college and got married immediately after graduation.
When you get up into that 10, 20, 30 year gap, the real age effect is that as the age difference grows, along with fewer common life experiences, it becomes exponentially more likely that at least one partner has had multiple previous relationships and doesn’t view marriage as a permanent thing worth working to save.
If there is a 30 year difference, it is almost always going to be a divorced older man with an uncomfortably young wife who sees him as more a meal ticket than a partner. With rare exceptions, it isn’t a marriage, so much as a service contract.
That graph strikes me as pretty accurate.
My Father was 3 months older than Mother. They were married nearly 70 years.
You know, when you complain about your exes all the time, as you do, all it does is point up how poorly you chose, not necessarily how bad women are. (although I do take your word for it that your choices were extraordinarily bad)
Funny!!! and cool
I learned something from each and every one, wound up with 2 kids (1 great kid, 1 meh) and 5 wonderful grandchildren.
No complaints, just not doing that again. Ever. Probably not this week, anyway.
/johnny
The love of my life was 24 years older than I was. But what a man!! Omgosh.
I was in my late 40s and 50s and he was.....24 years older. Time of my life.
Oh you don’t have a spare house to give away??????
3 year difference, 52 years.
I'm down to my last house and I made sure it was a tiny little 1 BR that no-one would want to move into. I'm not giving away any more real estate.
Besides, it has asbestos siding.
/johnny
I married a woman worth marrying. I also told her that I don’t believe in divorce and the second she tried to divorce me I’d take everything, sell it, and be in another country with all the money the next day
The problem with discussing statistics on a forum is that everyone thinks they are special, or that because their specific situation doesn’t meet the “ standard” that the findings are false.
“If there is a true correlation at the lower end, it probably relates to couples knowing each other through school, church and community as they were growing up.”
I met my wife at the sports car races in Santa Barbara in 1957 which we won and we got married in June of 1958, 56 years ago.
40 years old range is 27 on the low end, 66 on the high end.
For me, it’s kind of a moot point. I didn’t follow the rule. Married a woman one year younger than me (at 26) and things have worked out just fine. But, there are times I wish I’d waited a little longer and married someone a little younger.
No, he’s got to look for you. And I am sure he’d be right, pleased with the discovery!
Hope he’s got bad eyesight !!! But thanks!!!
That might be true here, but in Asia it’s very different.
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