Seems to me if you’ve made it that long, you could try and patch it together.
If someone wants to leave you, you can’t stop them. Imagine being married for 19 years, and being served papers 10 days before Christmas !
I just can’t imagine anyone in their right mind deciding to file for divorce at Christmas time. Not sure what part about “until death do us part” of their vows they obviously did not take seriously. I do believe there are some reasons why a divorce might be sought such as substance or physical abuse, or one of the persons having an affair which destroys trust. Perhaps more thought given to the reasons for marrying a particular person before taking the plunge might be in order.
My generation was really big on “marrying your own kind” and stressed compatibility in religion, race, politics, money aspirations, culture, having children, education, etc. Yet I see more and more people particularly over 60 who are newly single and trying to figure out what to do about the rest of their lives. Sad.
One of the most disturbing things I heard Suze Orman say on her show was counseling a woman considering divorce to take steps to protect her assets, get lists of account, etc, and then calculate how long she’d been there and stick it out a few more months if she was close to being able to qualify to draw on his Social Security.
I wish that some parents would really think hard about how their actions affect kids.
My parents were married almost 25 yrs., and my dad asked my mom for a divorce on Christmas Eve, as we were getting ready to go to church.
Christmas was really, really bad that year. I think I was 11 or 12. It took decades before I could even come close to forgiving my dad. My mom still doesn’t. Tough situation.