I'm totally with you there, buddy. I cannot STAND little kids behind me kicking my seat, screaming in my vicinity (it reverberates so much more in the confines of a plane), standing up on their seat and touching my head, etc. Since I paid good money for my seat on the plane, I believe I am entitled to sit there in peace and read, watch the movie, etc. without disturbances like this. I give the parent about 30 seconds to get their kid to stop kicking, touching, or throwing stuff on me. After that, I will tell the kid to stop. Screaming, I leave correction to the parents.
As for reclining, I paid for my seat, I'm gonna recline if it's more comfortable for me to sit like that. I never recline full back, just a little bit. And I don't snap my seat backwards suddenly to spill my back neighbor's drink or something. If the back neighbor was employing a "Knee Defender" or some such garbage, I'd have the stewardess take it away from them. Those things are illegal on most major airlines.
You and I are on the same page.