Posted on 08/06/2014 7:16:55 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
When the fight for gay marriage began to gain traction back in the early years of the last decade, social conservative critics usually went beyond denying that marriage could be redefined to include same-sex couples. Many of them argued that homosexuals were much less inclined than heterosexuals to valorize the ideal of monogamy. Allowing gays and lesbians to marry would therefore introduce a polyamorous option into the institution, and adultery would come to be viewed as an acceptable option for all marriages.
A spate of recent articles explicitly making the case for polyamory would seem to vindicate those conservative predictions and worries.
The latest example appeared a few days ago in The New Republic (reprinted from the New Statesman). Three and a half years into a relationship with a woman, author Rosie Wilby finds that "other people act as our kindling. Love breeds love." The experience leads her to ask rhetorically: What if we all came to view "our relationships as a pyramid structure with our primary partner at the top and a host of lovers, friends, spiritual soul mates, colleagues, and acquaintances beneath that?"
That's the polyamorist ideal, which Wilby defines as "consensual multiple loving connections, some sexual, some not, in a myriad of combinations and hierarchies." And, she insists, it's far better for everyone involved (including children) than the serial monogamy that she sees practiced by many straight and gay couples alike, leading to high rates of separation, divorce, and broken homes. "Instead of serial relationships one after the other," perhaps it would be better to foster "parallel ones running alongside one another." And anyway, we already act this way, fantasizing about sex with friends and acquaintances, making emotional connections with people other than our spouses or partners, sometimes cheating on them outright. So "why pretend"
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I’ve seen that “throuple” before.
Don’t even try to tell me that the middle “bride” isn’t a man, baby!
Care to have 5 or 6 wives nagging you?
and each of them will have 5 other husbands...
ack
Go ahead, hop in the sack with as many as you want. I’ll stick with my disease-free monogamy.
Oh the tangled web we weave.
Polyamorists? Is that anything like pigs and whores?
If you’re 19 you can be forgiven for believing this could mean more sex.
If you’re over 30 I’m sure you’re pining for more second guessing and indecision.
Well, not quite the way to ask it. Monogamy has been gone for quite some time. What I assume is the issue is will multiple partners be permitted to marry.
Time will tell.
Or MIL’s
I dunno. My wife is awesome. Clones?
Oh yeah, that’s a man..
No thanks.
/johnny
Exactly my thoughts.
Yeahhhhh....
because the only thing better than one woman mad at you is six of them mad at you.
No. That will probably be cannibalism.
The one in the middle is a guy.
What if we all came to view “our relationships as a pyramid structure with our primary partner at the top and a host of lovers, friends, spiritual soul mates, colleagues, and acquaintances beneath that?”
Yeah, but what do you do after you graduate from high school ?
>> “ Polyamorists believe their time has come.” <<
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Yehova knows their time will come!
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I was eviscerated at work when a woman asked for advice. Her husband of at least two decades has come out as “gay”. His advice to maintain a family for the children is adopting an “open marriage”. She wanted to know if she should go to counseling to accept his condition, get a divorce or go to the support group for single spouses of gay men someone referred her to.
I said that if her husband has been faithful to her for 20 years and wants to maintain his family for the sake of the children, he should get counseling to control his urges as he has been and stay faithful to her while raising the kids. If he wants to cheat on her, do what you’d do if he cheated on her with another woman - divorce, get the house and kids. But don’t have an open marriage, where he exposes her to STDs and wastes her money on his side pursuits.
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