in my neck of the woods, and I'm sure in yours, there are detox units that give you medicines to see you thru coming off alcohol with out having the dt's.....most insurances seem to allow it....
you're biggest problem is your husband...either he doesn't see the problem or he hates the idea of you getting off the booze because then you might see him more clearly, and that scares him...
do you have a church you can find counseling?....I would suggest talking to someone with a good background, get into detox, and afterwards, join AAA for a lifetime of recovery...in AAA, you'll also find friends who know what you are going thru....
God bless you....and I will say prapers for you as for many other freepers I would imagine.
of course joining AAA is nice but I guess what I meant was AA......lol...God love ya...