I note that you don't expect a wife to put her husband's needs before her own. Any particular reason for this expectation?
Because the husband is supposed to provide and protect and if he doesn’t look out for the wife, no one will. Too many husbands want to be mommied and when there are kids that really need to be mommied, mommy can’t do it for husband too.
Is it a lonely job being a husband and a father? It can be. But it’s worse if you fail at it.