Prior to the industrial age, multiple generations of families lived in the same house or at least on the property together.
I don’t see a problem with adult kids in the house if they go out, get work, work on their education, add to the love atmosphere and pull their weight around the place.
I’m selling my house and have bought another in combination with my mother. She’s healthy and active but in her early 80’s. Her hearing is not good. We found a nice sixties brick ranch on acreage, garden plots, near a river, view of a lake through the woods. One step into the front door, everything on one level, full basement. Plenty of room for us all, room for the dogs, a big garden. Sort of hidden away but closer to things, shopping, pharmacy, hospital with ER for her sake. I’ll inherit the whole thing when she passes. Seems like a good plan, she’s closer to her grandchild, no more stairs. I’m minus a mortgage with more money in the bank. Works for us.
Me either.
I love the idea of family compound or families living in close proximity and sharing resources (such as older folks babysitting and young adults helping out more with the physical labor, like yardwork for example, for the older folks.
>>I don’t see a problem with adult kids in the house if they go out, get work, work on their education, add to the love atmosphere and pull their weight around the place.<<
Unfortunately that hasn’t been my experience. In every instance that it’s happened (5 times so far, 3 different step-children), they get comfortable and lazy, and therefore lose the ambition to move back out. I end up having to become the hated-by-all-a$$hole in order to motivate them to leave.
Personally, I moved out when I was 17, worked my a$$ off, and never went back home again; so I simply don’t understand the casual nonchalance of this generation.