Frankly it sounds like they deserve each other, and you desrve better than continue as a martyr. Don’t you?
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Please, please please take the out she’s given you. If you have no kids together, change your phone number & move if you hafta. Resolve yourself to accept no more crazy womenz!
Despite the gender-bending handle, I am a woman - and best friends with a man formerly married to CRAZY. With all due respect to your shattered sense of home, freakin run. Don’t take her back. She made her drama bed. She can lie in it.
What you said is easier said than done. After 23 years of marriage it’s hard to let go like that, but I’m coming along. There is an adopted daughter, but she now lives with her birth mother and I’m still active in her life, which is more than I can say about my “ex”. The divorce should become final this summer, then I can move on.
Just trying to find someone after all those years is a daunting task.