I agree with you. They can’t see the difference. They don’t understand how neurotypicals feel. And kids and teens can be cruel. Groupthink is just horrible.
Smaller environments just for them, and actual courses in understanding neurotypical development and thinking and social cues could really help these kids.
I repeat. NO AMOUNT OF “exposure” to NEUROTYPICAL KIDS will erase one iota of autism. Yet that is the current paradigm. It really only serves the in denial parents who won’t admit there is something permanently different about their child.
I’m no expert, but I have a friend who works with autistic kids in a public school. From what she tells me about the kids and their parents, (much of it horror stories,) I suspect you are absolutely right in what you are saying in this thread.