I agree which is why I don’t go to church.
Not the folks I had in mind; however, that is sad but understandable given the lack of understanding that many Christians have. A Christian that studies and knows his faith should be the last one who is judgmental and legalistic. My suggestion is to not listen to what others say, but to seek after God through searching the scripture and prayer. We are promised that those who earnestly seek Him in spirit and truth will find Him. My prayer is that you embark on that search. You will not be disappointed. May God bless you.
I don’t take marching orders from indoctrinated morons in my faith either. Properly done, the search is often, in part, a highly intellectual process from my experience