Most women are attracted to powerful men and feel very empowered by using their sexuality to control them.
The roughness just confirms to them that the man is powerful and worth controlling.
A weak, “nice” man is no fun and not sporting. Like shooting fish in a barrel.
Trashy women you mean. Women who haven’t grown up, and are still in high school trying to get that rush of rebellion and compete with their girlfriends. Women who want their wild trailer park days and crazy teenage nights in perpetuity. The type of women who bleed a man dry and then move on.
Which is why I don’t date anymore. The vast majority are just like that. I was not put on this earth to be a thrill machine.