What none of them bargained for is that every one of them is a ball-buster. Strident (shrill), demanding, critical, and two of them are physically vicious.
As a result two are completely cowed, one is seeking divorce, and one is determined to drink himself to death.
I feel bad for them but they made their choices.
No kidding. I know plenty of Jewish men who went for asian women thinking that they were escaping ambitious domineering women with family issues. Same course, spices and heartburn they never say coming.