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I am going to disagree with the general consensus here. First of all, why would parents who claims to love their child want to see their child a drop-out under any circumstance? What truly loving parent would want to ruin his child's life like that? Secondly, since the daughter is in adult, treat her like one. The only rules there should be for her that normal people would be require of an adult living in their home. Otherwise, respect her privacy and her independence. She has the right to make her own decisions. Lastly, I am quite certain that young woman does have a very very very good legal case; I was told many years ago in a child support hearing, that parents are legally required to provide support for their children until they graduate from high school, even if they turn 18 while in school. Whether or not they would be required to pay for a private school is another question, but they certainly do have to provide for their daughter's support until she graduates, and they could go to jail if they do not. And if they have made their home so miserable for her that she can't live there, then yes, they should indeed pay for her to live elsewhere. Denying her the right to her high school diploma and wrecking her life under any circumstances is abusive and unforgivable in my book. Incidentally, depending on the state of course, the young woman, because she is still in high school, is likely eligible for foster care — the cost of which, again, the state will go after the parents for. By the way, I am not a kid, I'm a grandmother.

You may or not be right, but one thing I am certain of. This young lady has caused her family a lot of grief, and I wonder how long it will take to repair those relationships, when she really grows up and understands her error. She may think they are unreasonable and maybe even evil at this moment, but I expect that to change as she matures. They sound like loving parents who are really wanting the best for their child. That’s why they care about rules! Rules for boyfriends, rules for curfew, rules for behavior, and rules for chores. So many parents don’t try to impose rules anymore.

I’m just making guesses here, but when you are in a private school you can, at anytime, transfer into the local public school. Perhaps the boyfriend that the parents objected to was going to the same private school and transferring her out of the school was their way of separating them.

They would not be denying her a diploma or education, it’s just not the diploma or education that the daughter wants.

As far as respecting her rights as an adult, I don’t see a dependent high school student as an adult.