I am the bread winner and the wife has some rather severe learning disabilities.. Home school is not an option for us. we did try it though.
That is, indeed, unfortunate, and why a voucher law would benefit those in your situation.
Teacher's unions, (not so much the teachers in them) and the leftist Big Education (taxpayer funded) establishment, is the primary cause of degeneration in education in the United States.
It is a union dues money laundering scheme to fund leftist Democrat political campaigns, and has no interest in children's education, only indoctrination for control.
The teacher unions must be exposed, made legally accountable, and voucher programs implemented to force standards by competition to make this about kids rather than money for the left.
Good luck and God Bless you all.