Oh I agree - those girls need to have time to adjust and spend time with him in case he doesn’t survive this. They will be so hurt if they don’t get that choice and he will be gone so they will blame their Mother. Tell her that - their relationship will suffer because they won’t feel they can trust her or will internalize and say she didn’t trust them enough
she knows. we have discussed this thoroughly. she knows she will be blamed.
Not Her.
Him.
My FiL hid his cancer until the last month of his life.
In time, they will need to be brought to the realization, that he chose to bear the burden alone.
And respect it.