Well, I have heard that dumping people just before Valentines or another big date or holiday is a favorite trick of commitmentphobes, but in most cases , I suspect they’ve been contemplating the breakup for awhile, and just don’t want to go through the motions of celebrating with someone they’ve lost interest in.
Too bad she’s become bitter, probably at a fairly young age. Most of my Valentines days have been spent alone, too, obviously, since Ive never married. Of course I wish it had not turned out this way. But I think that Valentines has become a bigger deal over the years, just as Halloween has. I don’t remember my parents observing Valentines, though they had before they were married, since that’s when they got engaged, exactly 70 years ago—Feb.1944. So it was seen as a holiday for kids and young lovers.
I do also see it as a Christian holiday—St. Valentine was a legendary figure who helped people. Most importantly, in the northern latitudes, it’s a spot of warmth and brightness in a bleak season, like Christmas only smaller. I see it as a holiday of hope, like Easter can be, even for pagans and other non-Christians. It can even be a holiday of hope and change. one Valentines, I made a resolution not be alone by Valentines next year and it motivated me to take out a personal ad. I love the colors. And it’s 10 days before my birthday.
One of the few romantic Valentines’ I had recently, I told my conservative boyfriend that a lot of liberals don’t like Valentines. (Capitalist plot by Hallmark and the floral industry, doncha know—you’d be surprised how many men buy into this) Well, that’s all it took. If he thinks liberals don’t like it, he’s determined to like it. We had gifts and a romantic dinner that I cooked, no griping.
I think you’re right about Valentine’s Day becoming a bigger deal than it used to be. V-Day gifts used to be flowers and chocolates; now it’s diamond jewelry.
I don’t care about flowers. My favorite Valentine’s gift ever was a Stephen King novel and a bag of miniature peppermint patties, lol.
I think you're right. I think an important clue was in "I had been seeing this young lad horrendous douchebag musician for a few months and things, I thought, were progressing well. We had a lot of fun spending time together, feelings were growing deeper, and there was even some talk of future plans."
I get the feeling that SHE was feeling he should commit, while HE was deciding that she just wasn't "Miss Right", and looking for the door.