My best friend was my Matron of Honor and I was her maid of honor. I didn’t throw a single gift grab for her. Her mother’s friends did that. We were still in college at the time. My sister was a bridesmaid and my mother was ticked about it but it was my wedding, not hers.
My sisterinlaw had a tiny shower for me and my law school friends had one down here for me. Both at someone’s house potluck and a cake. Xs hubs sis had one for me in upstate ny at my inlaws house. Paula was my maid of honor and I was her matron. She has two sisters 10+ yrs older. I imagine her family had one and maybe her med school friends. I didn’t attend any. Unlike most girls today Xsteen actually needs a shower since she lives at home and xsfiance has dreck for housewares.