Federal law requires that parents know and agree to any and all accommodations.
So what am I missing here, where is the beef, why is the mother so upset?
My guess is that it is one of two things. 1) She sees a chance to make some money. 2) She is some how under the impression that HEPA laws are being violated. Given that the care is being administered by a licensed nurse (I am guessing RN) I don't see how that is possible.
As I said previously, changing a diaper is not strip searching. Any parent that has ever changed a diaper know that it is in no way sexual in nature.