I hope you are not including yourself in that list of abuses! (Presuming that your ex-wife was crazy over you at one time.) LOL
Seriously, the blame falls on the “abuser, lounge lizard, home wrecker”. That type of animal is an expert (sociopath) at telling the vulnerable lady what she wants to hear until he has her where he wants her — committed and unable to escape. Then he changes his tune.
There are women susceptible to flattery. There is a difference between a compliment and flattery. I’ve always had a good sense about “sweet-talkers”. They make my skin crawl.
Yeah, I knew my words could have been taken that way, but no, I don't think I was. Maybe I just became uninteresting or inattentive--or upset over her acts indicating other preferences. I could have understood her finding another companion that was a better human than myself. But a slithering alcoholic that was already abusive toward his wife? I guess I must have been really 4th class.
But Doris Day, the Girl Next Door? How could she not have good advice from others? I would thought her private life would have been as clean as her public image--that is, not a phony --