Same here.
A few years ago, my husband had an accident. I needed to get on his laptop to get his clients’ phone numbers and cancel/reschedule his appointments. His office building has a lock with a password and a key needed after 6pm. I needed those so I could leave a note on the office door.His office voice mail has a password for access and another for changing the message.
I have Paypal; he doesn’t. I’m on eBay, he isn’t. We each have a personal checking account separate from each other and mine has a linked debit card with a PIN. No social media, although he is on LinkedIn and several professional forums there.
On and on. We have mostly the same friends and we see each others emails. He hates having anyone besides me know his cell number, but some favored clients do. It’s a dumb phone with no password. We do no banking or bill paying online, but my Amazon account is linked to 2 credit cards and my eBay account to another one. I have online notifications for 2 Chase cards, but still get paper bills and they are kept paid off.
I have a file on my desktop with all the relevant passwords and he has a small day planner with the same.
We have been together over 40 years. There are no secrets except when friends who are couples may tell one of us something and ask it not be shared, usually just for a time.
This just makes sense for us.
I agree with you! I too have Amazon with a linked account and we both have separate checking that are linked.
33.5 years together here and there are no secrets except as you said, a friend shares but doesn’t want it to go further.
It’s a great way to live, that’s for sure! Congratulations on your 40 years together and I hope there were no lasting repercussions from his accident.